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  • Let’s Talk About It-Decision. Choices. Consequences.

    Every single day, we stand between two voices:

    😇 The one that whispers truth, peace, and wisdom
    🤘 The one that pushes impulse, ego, and old patterns
    👁️ And you in the middle — the deciding factor

    And this is why James 1:14 stays in my spirit:
    “Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own desire and enticed.”

    This verse teaches that temptation doesn’t come from other people…
    it comes from inside us — our own desires, impulses, and unhealed places.

    And that’s exactly what this angel 😇 / devil 🤘 moment represents:

    • The angel = conviction
    • The devil = temptation
    • You in the middle = the deciding factor
    • James 1:14 basically says:
    • “It’s not the enemy outside you — it’s the desires inside you that pull you off track.”

    And this is why that scripture stays in my spirit —
    because it reminds me that temptation doesn’t come from the outside.
    It comes from my own desires trying to drag me back into old patterns.
    The battle is internal.
    The decision is mine.
    And the consequences follow whichever voice I choose.

    Discernment is what helps you make the right choice.
    It’s the ability to see what’s true, good, and right even when it’s not obvious.
    It’s deeper than reacting and deeper than emotion.
    It’s that blend of insight, intuition, and spiritual guidance that helps you slow down and ask:

    “Is this the right choice or just the easy one?”
    “Is this growth or my desire dragging me?”

    Discernment helps you recognize motives, paths, and consequences before you step into them.
    It keeps you from bumping your head over and over again.

    And let me say this plainly: being stubborn will waste a lot of time in your life.
    Life is constantly changing, and the faster you learn, the better off you’ll be.
    The quicker you listen, the fewer consequences you’ll have to recover from.
    Wisdom doesn’t just protect your future —
    it lets you actually enjoy your life instead of spending years fixing avoidable mistakes.

    And I can say this because I lived it.
    I never thought I knew everything — that was never my issue.
    My struggle was believing I couldn’t depend on anyone, so I decided to walk alone.
    Not because I was wise, but because I was wounded.
    Not because I didn’t need help, but because I didn’t trust it.

    And walking alone taught me some hard lessons.
    It made me strong, yes — but it also made me stubborn.
    It protected me, but it also cost me.
    Because independence without discernment becomes isolation,
    and isolation will make you carry weights you were never meant to lift by yourself.

    Young people — hear me clearly.
    If you learn early, you avoid a lot of consequences later.
    Don’t be so smart that you stop listening.
    Don’t be so grown that you can’t take guidance.
    Don’t be so confident that you ignore understanding.

    Life will teach you the same lesson over and over
    until you finally humble yourself enough to learn it.

    Every decision you make shapes the life you live.
    Every choice carries a consequence.
    And every moment gives you a chance to choose better than you did before.

    Choose wisely.
    Choose with discernment.
    Choose with your future in mind.

    Prayer

    God, give me the wisdom to recognize the voices that guide me,
    the strength to choose what is right over what is easy,
    and the discernment to see beyond my desires and into Your truth.
    Heal the places in me that react from pain, pride, or fear.
    Teach me to listen, to slow down, and to choose with intention.
    Protect my steps, guard my heart, and guide my decisions.
    And for every young person reading this
    cover them with clarity, humility, and understanding
    so they don’t have to learn the hard way.
    Amen.

  • 🌿 AGING WILL COME

    Holiday / New Year Edition

    Starting over is beautiful. Becoming a new being is powerful.
    But let’s be honest — we are all aging into this new year.
    We’re carrying years of lessons, years of growth, years of truth.
    Aging doesn’t stop just because the calendar resets.
    But neither does our ability to choose differently.

    Aging will come — no matter what.
    We can’t hide it.
    We can’t run from it.
    We can’t prevent it.

    It’s the one thing we all have in common,
    the one thing every living person will face
    as long as we’re still here on this earth.

    But aging isn’t the problem.
    It’s our choice how we choose to live through it.
    How we show up.
    How we grow.
    How we honor the life we’ve survived.

    Because yes — you can fix your teeth,
    lift your breasts,
    tighten your body,
    smooth your face.
    And there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel good in your skin.

    But even after all of that,
    aging still shows up in the places surgery can’t reach.

    Aging shows up in your habits.
    In your peace.
    In your boundaries.
    In your relationships.
    In your healing.
    In your honesty with yourself.

    It shows up in what you feed your body
    and who you let into your body.
    It shows up in your choices,
    your patterns,
    your discipline,
    your environment,
    and the people you allow to shape your life.

    Because aging isn’t just physical —
    it’s spiritual, emotional, and mental.
    It’s the story your life has been telling
    even when your mouth stayed quiet.

    Sometimes aging is painful
    because it tells the truth.
    It reveals what we’ve carried,
    what we’ve ignored,
    and what we’ve allowed.

    Aging doesn’t just show years…
    it shows choices.

    And this is where the Word speaks louder than anything else:

    “Though outwardly we are wasting away,
    yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.”
    — 2 Corinthians 4:16

    That verse reminds us:
    yes, the body ages…
    but the spirit can stay fresh, strong, renewed, and alive
    if we take care of what’s happening on the inside.

    ✨ LET’S TALK ABOUT WHAT WE ALL FACE

    Aging is something every one of us will walk through.
    It doesn’t matter your background, your status, your money, your beauty, or your age —
    if you’re still alive on this earth, you will face it.
    But you don’t have to face it alone.

    PRAYER

    Father, thank You for the gift of life —
    for every year, every lesson, every wrinkle, every strand of gray
    that reminds us we are still here.

    Teach us to age with grace,
    to grow with wisdom,
    and to live with intention.

    Renew us from the inside out.
    Heal the parts of us that time has touched,
    and strengthen the places where life has worn us down.

    Help us make choices that honor our bodies,
    protect our spirits,
    and guard our peace.
    Surround us with people who lift us,
    love us,
    and speak life into us.

    And as we face the truth that aging will come,
    remind us that Your renewal comes too — day by day.

    Amen

    ✨ A Final Truth to Carry Forward

    Aging will come — but how you live, love, heal, and show up is still your choice.

  • ✨ Let’s Talk About Forgiveness…

    Let’s talk about forgiveness — not the easy kind people mention casually, but the real kind that costs you something. The kind where you release resentment even when you had every right to hold on to it. The kind where you choose mercy over retaliation, love over bitterness.

    Forgiveness is hard — I know because I had to walk through it myself. I had to forgive my mom and dad. Forgiving my mom came easy, but forgiving my dad took time. As he got older, I realized I couldn’t shape him into who I wanted him to be — but I could choose peace, love him where he is, and embrace the moments we still get to share.

    Forgiveness isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s not about forgetting what happened or excusing the behavior. It’s about refusing to let the wound control you. It’s about letting go of the debt so it no longer has a hold on your heart.

    And you know me — everything I write, I back it up with scripture or facts.

    When you read the Bible, it speaks clearly about forgiveness.
    Luke 17:3 teaches us to forgive when someone repents.
    Ephesians 4:32 reminds us to be kind, tenderhearted, and to forgive others just as God forgave us.

    Forgiveness doesn’t change what happened, but it does change what’s possible. Don’t be stubborn — let your heart forgive so you don’t live with regrets later. Forgiveness won’t fix the past, but it will free your future. Don’t wait until you’re saying:

    “I wish I would have.”

    Happy Forgiveness.

  • ✨ I STARTED SEEING ME

    Let’s Talk About It

    Sometimes healing begins in the quietest moments —
    like catching your own reflection
    and realizing you’ve been carrying more
    than your face ever said out loud.

    This post is for anyone who has worn stress in their skin,
    held grief in their bones,
    or forgotten to give themselves grace
    while surviving what tried to break them.

    I STARTED SEEING ME

    I used to be shy around the camera.
    Used to dodge the lens.
    Used to think pictures were proof
    of how tired I’d been.

    But then I looked in the mirror…
    and saw smile lines.
    Gray strands.
    A face that had carried
    more than it ever said out loud.

    Stress had settled in my skin.
    Grief had etched itself into my jawline.
    Worry had made a home in my shoulders.

    And I realized —
    I wasn’t just physically tired.
    I was emotionally shattered,
    carrying the weight of my son,
    my brother,
    and a heart cracked in places
    no one could see.

    But faith held me.
    And my daughters reminded me
    that legacy lives in laughter,
    not just survival.

    And one scripture kept me steady —
    not because you have to be religious,
    but because truth is truth
    and strength is strength:

    “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed;
    perplexed, but not in despair;
    persecuted, but not abandoned;
    struck down, but not destroyed.”
    — 2 Corinthians 4:8–9

    You don’t need a title or a label
    to feel the power in that.
    It’s simply a reminder
    that pressure doesn’t mean defeat
    and survival is still victory.

    So I started showing up.
    Started taking the picture.
    Started living in the moment
    instead of hiding from it.

    Because healing doesn’t just happen in your heart —
    it shows up in your face.
    It shows up in your posture.
    It shows up in your joy.

    So if you’re getting older…
    Stop stressing.
    Start living.
    Make memories.
    Take the picture.
    Smile with your whole soul.

    Because every wrinkle, every gray strand,
    every laugh line
    is proof that you made it through
    what tried to break you.

    And that’s worth capturing.

    FINAL THOUGHT

    If this message touched you,
    share it with someone who needs a reminder
    that they’re stronger than what they’ve survived.

    Choose joy today.
    Take the picture.
    Live your life with intention and softness.

  • ✨ LET’S TALK ABOUT COMMUNICATION — THE HARD STUFF WE DON’T SAY OUT LOUD

    There are conversations we avoid.
    Conversations we postpone.
    Conversations we bury under silence, assumptions, and pride.

    Not the dramatic moments.
    Not the loud arguments.
    Not the obvious betrayals.

    I’m talking about the quiet things:

    Miscommunication.
    No communication.
    Unspoken feelings.
    Unresolved truths.
    Silence that grows into distance.
    Assumptions that break what honesty could have saved.

    This is the part of communication nobody teaches us — the part that destroys families, friendships, marriages, and even faith circles without a single word being spoken.

    And today, we’re going there.

    Because I’ve lived this.
    I’ve seen what silence can do.
    I’ve watched misunderstandings turn into separation.
    I’ve carried the weight of stories that weren’t even true.

    And I know I’m not the only one.

    💬 Conversation One: Miscommunication, Unresolved Truths & Silence

    Miscommunication is one of the biggest relationship killers — not because people don’t care, but because people don’t talk.

    We assume.
    We guess.
    We fill in the blanks with our own fears, wounds, and past experiences.

    And silence?
    Silence is loud.
    Silence is dangerous.
    Silence creates stories that never happened.

    People walk around with regrets like:

    “I wish I would’ve listened.”
    “I wish we could’ve talked.”
    “I wish I would’ve said what I really felt.”

    Those regrets sit in the heart like unfinished sentences.

    If something can be fixed, make your peace while you still can.
    Not for them — for you.

    💬 Conversation Two: When One Incident Changes Everything

    Sometimes it’s not what happened — it’s what people think happened.

    And sometimes people stop communicating with you not because of the truth, but because of gossip, hurt feelings, or assumptions that were never checked.

    I lived through this.

    Years ago, my ex‑husband told people I hit him with a car — or they assumed I did because I stayed silent.
    What they didn’t know is this: he came over looking for trouble.

    I never spoke on it.
    I let people think whatever they wanted to think.

    But here’s the truth:
    I was almost charged for something I didn’t do — until I finally communicated with the police and explained what really happened.
    He jumped on the car.
    I was driving off.
    He fell.

    One moment.
    One misunderstanding.
    One false story.

    And that’s the danger of silence.
    That’s the danger of assumptions.
    That’s the danger of letting gossip speak louder than truth.

    People will always assume the worst.
    People will always create their own version of events.
    And it is not your responsibility to chase down every rumor or correct every perspective.

    ✨ You can’t control what people hear. You can only control what you communicate.

    💬 Conversation Three: Gossip, Assumptions & Texting

    People will stop communicating with you because of:

    • something they heard
    • something they assumed
    • something someone else told them
    • something they misunderstood

    And today, communication is even more complicated.

    We communicate through text messages, and while texting is convenient, it’s also dangerous.

    A text can be:

    • misread
    • misinterpreted
    • taken out of context
    • filtered through someone’s emotions instead of your intention

    Some conversations cannot be handled through a screen.
    Some truths need a voice, not a message bubble.
    Some misunderstandings need tone, presence, and clarity.

    💬 Conversation Four: The Things We Leave Unspoken

    As time passes, we leave things unsaid.
    We avoid the hard conversations.
    We let pride, fear, or assumptions do the talking for us.

    But unspoken truth is still truth.
    Unspoken hurt is still hurt.
    Unspoken love is still love.

    Some relationships didn’t end because of betrayal —
    they ended because nobody talked.

    Some families didn’t break because of disrespect —
    they broke because nobody cleared the air.

    Some friendships didn’t fade because of conflict —
    they faded because both sides waited for the other to speak first.

    Unspoken things have power.
    And they don’t disappear just because we avoid them.

    💬 Conversation Five: The 7 Cs of Communication

    Let’s pause here. We’ve talked about silence, misunderstanding, and emotional distance. But now it’s time to ask: How do we actually communicate well? The 7 Cs give us a simple, powerful framework to guide us.

    If we’re going to talk about communication, we have to talk about how we communicate — not just what we say.

    The 7 Cs of Communication align beautifully with scripture:

    1. Clarity — Say what you mean.
    2. Completeness — Give the full truth.
    3. Conciseness — Speak with purpose.
    4. Correctness — Be accurate and honest.
    5. Courtesy — Tone matters.
    6. Consideration — Think about how your words land.
    7. Concreteness — Be specific and clear.

    Healthy communication is intentional communication.

    💬 Conversation Six: What God Says About Communication

    God has always cared about how we speak.

    Colossians 4:6
    “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt…”

    Proverbs 18:21
    “The tongue has the power of life and death.”

    Ephesians 4:29
    Use your words to build, not tear down.

    Matthew 28:19
    Even the Great Commission is rooted in communication.

    Communication isn’t just a skill — it’s a spiritual responsibility.

    💬 Conversation Seven: Effective Communication Requires a Softened Heart

    You can’t communicate effectively with a hardened heart.

    A hardened heart:

    • blocks understanding
    • blocks compassion
    • blocks clarity
    • blocks healing

    Scripture says:

    Ezekiel 36:26
    “I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”

    Proverbs 15:1
    “A gentle answer turns away wrath…”

    Before we can speak clearly, we must feel clearly.
    Before we can resolve conflict, we must release pride.
    Before we can heal relationships, we must let God soften the places we’ve hardened.

    ✨ A soft heart communicates better than a sharp tongue ever will.

    💬 Conversation Eight: Don’t Just Read This — Do the Work

    Don’t just read this and walk away unchanged.
    Find a way to unlock the things you’ve kept buried for years.
    Get out of your own way.
    Do it for your children, so they can see love, see healing, and learn how to communicate effectively.

    This is why I wrote this:

    • People who haven’t spoken in years will rethink their silence.
    • People who misunderstood each other will finally see the other side.
    • People who carried guilt or confusion will feel seen.
    • People who were hurt by gossip will feel validated.
    • People who avoided conversations will feel convicted — in a good way.

    This message isn’t just information — it’s an invitation.

    Prayer

    Father, soften our hearts.
    Teach us to speak with clarity, grace, and truth.
    Heal the wounds caused by silence, assumptions, and miscommunication.
    Give us the courage to have the conversations we’ve avoided.
    Restore what can be restored.
    And give us peace where release is necessary.
    Amen.

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  • ✨ Let’s Talk About Wisdom…

    Let’s talk about Wisdom — not the kind people claim just because they’ve lived a little, but the kind you earn through real life, real lessons, and real growth.

    I can only speak from what I’ve lived. And what life has taught me is this: wisdom doesn’t automatically show up just because you got older or went through something. Everybody goes through something — but not everybody grows through it.

    Wisdom shows up when you slow down long enough to reflect…
    to be honest with yourself…
    to learn from your choices…
    and to see life from a different angle.

    Life will teach you — but wisdom is what you gain when you actually process the lesson, not just survive the moment.

    And the scripture that helped me understand that is:

    “For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.” — Proverbs 2:6

    That’s why I’ve been studying wisdom.
    That’s why I seek it.
    That’s why I pray for it.

    Because experience may shape you… but only God can give you the wisdom to carry what life teaches you.

  • ✨ Let’s Talk About Grief 😔 (Holiday Edition)

    Let’s talk about grief…
    Not the kind people gloss over, but the kind that sits in your chest and refuses to move.
    The kind that changes you.

    My own grief — losing my mom — was the kind that stays with you.
    It doesn’t fade just because time passes.
    It doesn’t disappear because people say “be strong.”
    Some days it hurts… and some days it holds you.
    Because grief is really just love with nowhere to go.

    And during the holidays, that grief gets louder.
    The empty chairs feel bigger.
    The silence feels heavier.
    The memories hit harder.
    People are smiling on the outside while carrying a storm on the inside.

    There was a time I was mad at God for taking my mom.
    I didn’t understand it.
    I was angry, numb, and trying to pray through a pain I didn’t even have words for.
    But even in that place, I kept reading scripture — not because I felt strong, but because I didn’t know what else to do.

    And this is the scripture that helped me breathe again:

    Revelation 21:4 — “He will wipe every tear from their eyes…”

    That verse reminded me that God saw every tear I cried in the dark.
    It reminded me that my mom is not suffering.
    It reminded me that one day, all this pain, all this grief, all this aching… will be no more.

    That scripture didn’t take the grief away, but it held me together when I felt like I was falling apart.
    It gave me something to hold onto when nothing made sense.

    So if you’re grieving this holiday season — missing someone you can’t call, can’t hug, can’t hear anymore — hear me clearly:

    You’re not invisible.
    You’re not weak.
    You’re not “behind.”
    You’re grieving — and that’s human.

    God sits with you in the parts nobody sees.
    He hears the tears you don’t talk about.
    He understands the ache you can’t explain.
    And He holds the pieces you’re still trying to gather.

    You’re allowed to feel what you feel.
    You’re allowed to miss who you miss.
    And you’re allowed to heal at your own pace.

    ✨ Let’s Pray

    Lord, wrap Your arms around every person grieving this season.
    Hold the ones who feel empty, strengthen the ones who feel numb,
    and comfort the ones who are trying to smile through their pain.
    Remind them that You see every tear, even the silent ones.
    Remind them that their loved one is safe with You, whole with You,
    and that one day, You will wipe every tear from their eyes.
    Give them peace tonight — the kind that settles the heart and steadies the soul.
    Amen.

    ✨Remember

    Your grief is proof that you loved deeply… and that love didn’t die.
    It’s still here, still alive, still holding you — one memory at a time.

  • “Hope Lives Here “

    Let’s Talk About Hope

    Even if you’re not spiritual…even if you don’t read scripture…even if you don’t believe the way I believe…the word HOPE still carries power.

    Hope is what keeps a person moving when life tries to stop them.It’s the quiet belief that tomorrow can be better than what you’re facing today.

    Recently, I started reading Lamentations 3:21–23, and it taught me that even in deep pain, God’s mercy still reaches for us. It shows that suffering is real, loss is real, grief is real — but so is His compassion.

    There was a time, many years ago, when I was angry with my mom because she made the decision to sign a DNR. At that moment, I thought she had lost hope. I didn’t understand how someone could be tired enough to stop fighting.

    But as I got older, I matured.I realized she wasn’t giving up on life — she was giving up on suffering.

    She stayed long enough to build a stronger relationship with us.She stayed long enough to love us through her pain.She stayed long enough to leave peace behind.

    And the time she lost with us… she got it back.But that made losing her even harder.

    She didn’t lose hope.She held onto it in the only way she could.

    Through everything I’ve lived through, God showed me that HOPE is more than a word — it’s a reminder.

    I came up with what each letter means to me, and I pray it helps you too:

    H — His LoveThe love that covers me and carries me.

    O — The Obstacles we will faceBecause life will test us, but God strengthens us.

    P — His PromisesThe ones He made long before I ever knew I’d need them.

    E — His Everlasting LoveThe love that never runs out, never changes, never fails.

    That’s why I hold on.That’s why I keep going.That’s why hope still lives in me.

    Let’s Pray

    Lord, thank You for the hope that refuses to die in us.When life feels heavy, lift our spirits again.Strengthen our hearts, steady our minds,and let Your mercy meet us every morning.Help us hold on to hope, because in the end,You are still there — never letting go of us.Amen.

    Happy Hope Morning.May this be the day someone feels hope rise again.

  • Hello World!

    My writing journey began as a little girl who often felt alone—writing became my sanctuary, my place to process, pray, and express what I couldn’t say out loud. Over time, it grew into a spiritual gift and a tool for encouragement. Today, I’m a business strategist, licensed Realtor, and loan professional — offering consulting through several companies, Whether I’m helping clients secure funding, protect their property, or building a brand, writing remains at the center of everything I do. It’s how I advocate, encourage, and equip. I’ve raised two daughters who carry this same creative fire: my oldest is a singer, songwriter, and author, & actress and my youngest loves to create stories and write with a natural imagination and ease. Something I once laid down now lives boldly inside of them. Writing is our legacy. It’s how we heal, connect, and uplift.

  • ✨ Let’s Talk About It: I Built This Blog Because They Made Me

    Let’s talk about it.
    I didn’t wake up one morning and say, “You know what? Let me go build a whole blog today.”
    No ma’am. No sir.

    I built this blog because every writing job I applied for said the same thing:
    “Please include a link to your blog.”

    A blog?
    Me?
    In this economy?

    But here we are.
    And honestly… maybe they knew something I didn’t.

    Because once I started setting this up — the name, the pages, the stories — I realized something:
    I’ve been blogging my whole life.
    In my notes.
    In my prayers.
    In my poems.
    In my “Let’s Talk About It” & my Road

    Sign Series & Iamthemotivationplug.

    So yes, I built this blog because the jobs told me to.
    But I’m keeping it because God told me to use my voice.
    Because women need a place to breathe again.
    Because my story has weight.
    Because my words have work to do.

    Welcome to Signs of Strength.
    Let’s talk about it.