Let’s talk about it — because clearly the internet has been talking.
Over the past few days, people have ask me what I think about Dr. Karri Turner Bryant’s gown at the UNCF Mayor’s Masked Ball. And honestly, I wasn’t planning to say anything. But since the conversation keeps circling back to me, let’s go ahead and unpack it.
First of all, I’ve always liked her.
She’s been bold, fashionable, and unapologetically stylish long before she married Pastor Jamal Bryant. Her style didn’t suddenly appear because of a title. The only thing that changed was the spotlight.
Now, yes — the dress went viral.
Yes — people had opinions.
And yes — the internet did what the internet does.
Some folks said it was too revealing.
Others said it was a gala, not a church service.
And Pastor Bryant himself said he bought the dress, approved the dress, and reminded everyone that she’s married to him — not the internet.
But here’s where I land:
This conversation is bigger than a dress.
It’s about leadership.
It’s about visibility.
It’s about the expectations placed on women — especially women connected to ministry.
Because let’s be honest…
Most women know when an outfit is going to turn heads.
We know when we’re stepping into “statement” territory.
That’s not judgment — that’s awareness.
And here’s the part people forget:
The title “First Lady” isn’t biblical.
It’s a cultural role the church created.
And once that title is placed on you, whether you asked for it or not, people expect representation.
Not perfection. Not bondage. But wisdom.
Leadership doesn’t clock out.
Visibility doesn’t turn off.
Influence is a mantle, not a mood.
So my stance is simple:
I respect her freedom as a woman.
I understand her intention.
But I also recognize that when you’re connected to spiritual leadership, your choices echo louder — even at a gala.
She didn’t change.
The spotlight did.
And that’s why the conversation is happening.
A Prayer for Women in Leadership
Father, we lift up every woman You’ve called to lead — in the church, in the home, in business, in community, and in every space where her presence carries weight.
Strengthen her shoulders for the mantle she carries.
Remind her that leadership is not about perfection, but about purpose.
Cover her mind from the noise of public opinion and anchor her identity in You alone.
Give her wisdom to navigate visibility with grace.
Give her discernment to know when to speak and when to be still.
Give her confidence to walk boldly in the gifts You placed inside her long before any title was attached to her name.
Protect her heart from comparison, criticism, and pressure.
Let her know she is not defined by a moment, a mistake, or a misunderstanding — but by Your calling, Your covering, and Your love.
Surround her with people who see her humanity, not just her role.
People who pray for her, not prey on her.
People who uplift her, not use her.
And Lord, remind every woman in leadership that she is allowed to grow, evolve, and be fully herself — even under the spotlight.
Let her shine without shame.
Let her stand without shrinking.
Let her lead without losing the softness You gave her.
May her life reflect Your glory.
May her choices reflect Your wisdom.
And may her journey reflect Your grace.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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